I’ve talked about reasonable expectations before. You show up for sex, folks should have the expectation you’re going to have genitals – c’mon, it’s a given. Well, here’s a new one: If you’re in a kidnapping and crime role-play sim, you should have the expectation that ‘bad things’ are going to happen to people… especially if you’re one of the predators in the area! Don’t jump into someone’s IM asking if they’re being abused in RL, based on what’s happening to their avatar.
Abe and I have been spending lots of time in Dead End City, having a blast. It’s a kidnap / forced sex / RP sim with a wide array of ‘regulars’… which we would like to become as well. Interactions in such an environment are oftentimes ‘non consensual’ – insomuch as anything RP’d by a cartoon ever is. Someone who witnessed Sabella getting the shit slapped out of her recently made two different comments in my IM about it:
[2010/03/07 20:00] ****** interesting relationship you have with abe
[2010/03/07 20:01] Sabella Fallen: I’d be glad to talk about that in local chat, as I keep IMs OOC…
She didn’t answer, but shortly thereafter, she “came to my rescue” and treated the bloody eye that was a result of the slap, and commented further via IM:
[2010/03/07 20:26] ****** : ((winces at the bruses but this is rp after all))
[2010/03/07 20:28] Sabella Fallen: (( yep, just RP. 
))
That should have closed the matter. Sadly, it didn’t. She immediately followed it with:
[2010/03/07 20:28] ****** : (9 i do hpe so))
I have to assume that they hadn’t bothered to read any of my profile – either 2nd life or first life, or the extensive Bio on my picks tab, linked to even more back story on this blog, or they would have realized just how ridiculous and offensive that statement would be. I quickly responded:
[2010/03/07 20:28] Sabella Fallen: (Oh, heavens yes. Abe and I are RL partners. This is purely RP.)
The mere fact that I had to defend my real life relationship from thoughts that my loving and committed partner was secretly a wife-beater, and I was some abused mouse, absolutely ruined both our evenings. I made Abe aware of the conversation, and he had a pointed but polite conversation with the person, making it clear that such leading statements were inappropriate.
Sabella’s Rule for Roleplay #1: Read the Fucking Profile! It’s there for a reason. It’s going to teach you a lot. You can read a lot into what they say, what they don’t say, and how they choose to represent themselves. Look at their groups – are you in similar ones? If they state limits, respect them. If she says she needs XYZ, and you’re JKL, walk on. There’s a hell of a lot of folks here – someone’s going to fit your needs, if this one doesn’t.
While I’m not going to mute this person, I am going to avoid all but the most casual contact with them. I don’t need that kind of drama in either life. I’m here for the party, for the fun, for the pixel sex, for the rush and the adventure…You wanna come play? Look me up, but bring a dick and some common sense..
